3/11 Cannoneers
This is my story of how I have done at letting go of some things. I started this blog when my son was in High School , during a deployment and facing big life changes. I have come out the other side of those changes. Emptynest, long since empty. Our son is now a Lt in the USMC and now we are facing exiting the Marine Corps possibly in the next few years. One thing I have learned is life is constantly in flux, so this is my life...in flux.
THe Harting Family
Thursday, October 28, 2010
CAX LINKS
3/11 Cannoneers
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Marine Wife...Not The Hardest Job in the Marine Corps
Monday, October 25, 2010
For My Friend, Happy Birthday Dennis
LCpl. Dennis Veater
(reprinted from TheTimes-Tribune.com, March 19, 2007)
A funeral instead of a wedding
CLARKS GREEN — Given the occasion, it was a sadly appropriate hymn.“You shall cross the barren desert, but you shall not die of thirst,” the Church of St. Gregory choir sang while mourners took their seats Saturday at the funeral of Marine Lance Cpl. Dennis J. Veater.“You shall wander far in safety, though you do not know the way,” continued the lyrics of Jesuit Bob Dufford’s “Be not Afraid.”Lance Cpl. Veater did, after all, cross the barren desert — as a Marine truck driver in Iraq — but the Jessup resident did not survive what was to have been his last convoy. The 20-year-old, whose gear was already packed for home, died March 9 in a Fallujah military hospital from wounds suffered during that mission in Al Anbar province. Military officials have not released details, citing the safety of troops still in the region.“I will dream of him, and tell everyone about him,” his sister, Patti Cowan, said. “He’s my baby brother. He’s my hero.“May he rest in peace.”Four of Lance Cpl. Veater’s siblings, along with his fiancee and her pastor, eulogized the fallen Marine on Saturday during a Catholic funeral Mass celebrated by Monsignor John H. Louis of St. Gregory, his family’s parish.The youngest of six children, Lance Cpl. Veater was alone among the pack in following their father, retired Sgt. Major Donald G. Veater, into the Marines.“The words, ‘looking up to Dennis’ gave us a new meaning a couple days ago,” said his twin brother, Adam Veater, who was born shortly before Dennis. “We will always be looking up.”His oldest sister, Karen, echoed that theme, saying she often felt Dennis “was my protector,” even as children.“I always imagined this day would come, like 60 years from now,” Miss Veater said. “My brother was taken too early to show all of us everything he could have and should have become.”Lance Cpl. Veater, a 2004 Abington Heights High School graduate, was assigned to the Marine Forces Reserve’s Wing Support Squadron 472, Wing Support Group 47, 4th Marine Aircraft Wing at Wyoming in Luzerne County.He was due home Wednesday to plan a May 26 wedding with fiancee Angalene Snipes, 21, of Jessup. The couple met during their freshman year at Penn State Worthington Scranton in 2004.At his betrothed’s request, he will be buried wearing a wedding ring.Miss Snipes sat in the front row Saturday with the couple’s son, 14-month-old Dominick, only feet from the flag-draped casket with a Purple Heart medal pinned to it.“He used to say, ‘I wish you could see what I’m doing over here,” Miss Snipes said. “I told him, ‘I don’t need to see. I know.’ ”Like his siblings, she praised a young man who leaves a legacy of love for his country and his kin.“I’m so proud of him for the man he is,” she sobbed. “For the man he was. And for the man our son is going to be.”Whatever that little boy may someday remember of Saturday’s funeral, history will record that his father was bade farewell in a ceremony colored by centuries of well-honed military decorum and millenia of Christian tradition.For that, one need look no farther than the powerful sight of uniformed Marines among the congregants, kneeling in prayer and taking Holy Communion side by side with civilian mourners.Lance Cpl. Veater’s burial was postponed due to Friday’s snowstorm, but elements normally reserved for graveside burial were carried out Saturday.Sacred music and readings were complemented by a Marine honor guard, playing of the Marine and Navy hymns, and outside the church, there boomed a traditional rifle salute and bugling of taps.The Marines were kind enough, Donald Veater said, to provide two U.S. Flags and two Purple Heart medals — one set for himself, one set for Dominick. Countless muffled sobs broke the silence of hundreds as a Marine presented a crisply folded flag to little Dominick, cradled in his crying mother’s arms.In his homily, Monsignor Louis meditated on life as a gift which God gives freely and takes back equally freely, often inexplicably to the human mind. He reminded the faithful that, according to Christian belief, physical death is not spiritual death.“Human life is not destroyed, it’s changed,” Monsignor Louis said. “It’s changed into the marble of God himself.”Michael Cantando, pastor of Faith Baptist Church of Peckville, where Angalene and Dennis worshipped, reiterated the resurrection message during his eulogy: “Though family and friends are experiencing loss,” he said, “God is experiencing the presence of Dennis for ... work well done.”He also praised those who molded the young man’s character, especially parents Donald and Donna.“Make no mistake. The lion’s share of who Dennis is, who Dennis was, was because of mom and dad,” Pastor Cantando said. “It is a credit to their parenting. It was this Dennis, Angie fell in love with.”About that, she left no doubts.“No matter what he did, it was always about someone else’s happiness,” Miss Snipes said.
Saturday, October 23, 2010
24th MAU They Came In Peace: 1983 Marine Barracks Bombing
I was living on Camp Lejeune when this happened with my sister and her husband who was is a Marine. It was like 9/11 on board base. I will never forget, we should never forget.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Personal Observations...Before the Wars
I am not sure how many of my readers were Mil-Spouses before 9/11 but if you were you may know how I feel and if you weren't maybe someday you will. Before the wars we were a bit anonymous us military folks. No one seemed too much interested in us, or what our spouses did. No one would get up and "shake" my husbands hand when they would see him wearing a Marine Polo or t-shirt. There were no great out-reaches to make sure everyone was taken care of when they were in the field or on an operation. I'm not complaining mind you, but our Marines, Sailors and Soldiers and Airmen have always been out here, always putting themselves on the line for this country and always targets of terrorist ie, Beirut, Embassy's, Cole, I could go on. But no one seemed to notice. Seems to me since the Wars so many people have such a great interest in my husband, and his Marines and what they do and how they are and that is really great, it really is. The Department of Defense has now more than ever been concerned with our quality of life..thank you by the way. I just hope, when all is said and done and we bring the last of our troops home from Iraq and Afghanistan that the country will not again forget that our bravest have been before and will be after, somewhere out it the world walking the post for them, for us. Just a thought.
Excuse Me While I Pat Myself on the Back! Day#5
Don't worry I will not bore you every day with my workouts but I did this week to hold myself accountable and motivated. I'm going to start my weigh in every Monday. I was 188 (yikes I know) when I weighed in this Monday so fingers crossed I will see a little movement in the negative. I am 5'11 and would like to be about 160-165 that is where I am really comfortable. But no more crazy crash diets that wear me down and make me feel like crap, I am doing the healthy way and in a way I can maintain.
Oh and the hubs is coming home for the field today so I am just all in all in a GREAT mood. Hope you all have a fantastic weekend!
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Marine Corps Embassy Security Guard - How far will you go
This was a great experience for my husband, our son and myself. We love Embassy Duty and the friends we made all over the world.
I'm Still Upright..Day #4
It is amazing how working out again has really lifted my spirits and made me feel like I am actually being productive. It's also a great place to meet people from the battalion. When you sign in you are asked your husbands unit and today a young wife came up to me and asked me if I was from 3/4 because she seen my name and I looked familiar. So it was awesome to be able to chat with her and tell her about some volunteer stuff we are doing at the battalion..networking is important for meeting people. I really feel good this week.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Police: ASU student was fatally shot during botched robbery
DAY #3--Step Class
My hubs has been in the field since Monday and I miss him terribly, I really do. But it has been nice having something besides my loneliness to keep me company. Baby steps. You would think after 16 years of this I would be used to it. Do you ever really get used to it? Who besides myself thinks it actually gets worse? I don't pine, but I do feel the absence and it really leaves a void. I guess I am lucky because I married my best friend but it truly is a double edged sword...
But enough of that. Tomorrow is Abs, Glutes, and Core. Sounds scary! But I can't wait. I can't wait to tell you all about it!
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
And Now....Day #2
Monday, October 18, 2010
Putting My Best Foot Forward Day #1
So we made it through the class without embarrassing ourselves which is always nice. Tomorrow we are going to do 2 classes!! Kick Boxing and Pilate's!
I think it is so awesome MCCS offers all these classes and they are free and there is such a great selection to pick from. I think they have different classes at 3 different locations at pretty much all hours of the day.
So that was my morning and I am happy to have already accomplished so much, a great distraction with our hubs in the field!
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Moving Towards...Success
Wish me luck!
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
I'm Still Out Here.....I Promise
What has happened is my husband has hit the ground running with his pre-deployment training which takes him to the field about 80% of his time. And that is fine, this is something I have to find my way through, he can't do it for me and I know I have his support 100%. I am not feeling as sad, which is good. I have had no luck finding a job but if I were to be completely honest I haven't put my whole heart in to finding one. So I am making forward motion to figuring this all out. I am losing weight ..on purpose, and I am working out regularly again. So as you can see..I am moving closer to the new me everyday. I am still a mom, I am still needed, my son is still my baby and I know that will never change. I am in love with my husband, which as odd as that sounds is a great big bonus after 16 years and I am loved back, these are the things I know for sure. So those of you that haven't abandoned my blog, thank you. I am still here.