THe Harting Family

THe Harting Family

Monday, February 28, 2011


Any military wife has their own version of this...Semper Gumby, Always Flexible. I get it..I got's gotten. But really?? Really?? I am very flexible, how could I have survived 16 years of PCS, Un-Accompanied Orders, Tour Conversions, Valiant Eagle, WTI, CAX, Viper, Combat Deployments and all the other various operations and training movements without losing my mind without being flexible right?
Ok so today I am feeling a bit Semper Grumpy because I think I'm about to lose my mind this time...just once..just once can we just do it the way we were supposed too???
OPSEC forbids me to expand on this but please stay tuned, in the words of all good military men.... "Babe, when I know, you'll know."

Friday, February 25, 2011

Milspouse Friday Fill In #31

Remember to go on over to Wife Of A Sailor, she started this and want to give credit where credit is due. It has really been fun and I can't always get to it but it is one of my faves.

1. Aside from no deployments, what is one thing you would want to make the MilSpouse life “perfect”? submitted by Oh How DelightfulTo not be discriminated in the work place because employers know you will be leaving eventually, it particularly bothers me on base when this happens.

2. Just how many peppers did Peter Piper pick? submitted by Married into Army
Well if he was in the military not many since he was always being deployed.

3. If you could have any career in the world with nothing holding you back, what would you do? submitted by It’s My Party and I’ll Cry if I Want To

Something in Social Services, maybe with the Wounded Warriors.

4. Do you have a service oriented tattoo and if so what is it. If you don’t what would you get? submitted by The Squid’s Accomplice

No since I am not in the service and that would be weird. I was getting a pedicure the other day and I saw a girl with 2 big guns on her back and it said "Grunt Life". I almost fell over with laughter knowing it was her husband or boyfriends since Marine Corps has no females in combat arms and most definitely not in the infantry so I thought "how strange is that?"

5. Imagine a block of time has opened up in your busy day for you to take a class in anything you like. What subject would you choose? submitted by To The Nth
I am going to actually look in to doing this while hubs is deployed. I want to take a photography class to learn more about my camera and taking awesome photos.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Friday, February 18, 2011

Weekly Round Up

Make sure that you head on over to see Hillary at The Whole FamDamily for the Mil Spouse Weekly Roundup. I have found some of my fave blogs this go check it out!!

Milspouse Friday Fill In #30

(1) What is your favorite MilSpouse blog (not including Wife of a Sailor who we all love, or your own)? submitted by Our Crazy Life

Well I hate to ever pick favorites because I have so many blogs I love for so many reasons. I am still a novice blogger even though I have been blogging for a while now I am still learning. If I would have to pick I would have to pick 2. The first is Just An Average Ordinary Sane Psycho Super Goddess And Ines at The Few, The Proud, The Wife.

My Reasons are this...Average Ordinary is a Marine Spouse that I admire since she keeps it all together, with 4 kids, a Geo-Bach Marine husband and not to mention she is incredibly witty, and fierce. And Ines because she is a wonderful example of a Marine Spouse and I admire her a great deal. Both of their blogs are should go check them out if you haven't.

2) What are your favorite perks about your s/o being deployed (we all know there are perks)? submitted by Ramblings of a Marine Wife

I can't honestly think of any perks to my husband being in danger 24/7. Not the money, not anything. Every deployment brings casualties, wounded and I'm just not looking forward to the next.

(3) How long did you date your before getting engaged? Married? submitted by Utterly Chaotic

About a year.

(4) What do you think your would do if s/he wasn’t in the military? submitted by Adventures of M-Squared

I think when my husband retires he will be doing something in federal law enforcement and we will go back overseas to the embassies.

(5) If you could talk to the Secretary of the Army what is one suggestion you would like to bring to their attention in order to improve the lives of military families? submitted by My Life as His (Air Force) Wife

I am not sure what I would say to the Secretary of the But on the Marine side I would ask them how they plan to address the discrimination faced in the work place by military spouses, on base.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Happy Day

Today my hubs came home from EMV (Enhanced Mohave Viper) training. Almost 5 weeks in the unforgiving California desert. He is none the less for wear..about 14 pounds lighter (I need EMV..forget weight watchers) and reeking like a body that hasn't seen much water in 5 weeks..but looking yum, yum delicious. It's a grim reminder that shortly he will be gone for a long time, to points much less friendly then the California desert..but he is trained, with the best in the Marine Corps and I am comfortable in knowing these last weeks have again prepared him for hell. It is hell for us all but let's be realistic. Those that wear the uniform bear the heaviest burden. You will never see me sporting the bumper sticker, Marine Corps Spouse, the toughest job in the Corps. Although it is cute, it is very far from the truth. After many deployments and hardships on my hubs part, I look at him renewed as my my husband and as an upright man. I sleep at night knowing he's out there for me, for you, for us. He is many in number and I sleep well. Thank you Greg...for everything. I love you.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

In Tempe

Greetings from Tempe Arizona!!! Man I just love it here. Nothing like being on the countries largest college campus to inject some energy back into myself. My son asked me to come up this weekend and I am sure it was more for me then him. He worries all the time when I am alone even when I assure him I am perfectly fine. But I am happy he did and happy I did (come here). It's been kinda cold in the desert so coming here in the balmy 70's is nice. Yesterday we went to a movie and dinner and just talked about how we are both doing. It does my heart good to hear how incredibly happy he is at. school, he has a fantastic group of friends and he is continuing to excel in R.O.T.C. He was promoted to Intel Officer this semester and he seems to be really embracing it all.
We talked about his dads upcoming deployment and how he is going to deal with not being there to say good bye. Of course his only concern is me being alone and me telling him that I will be just fine. We are very lucky that block leave is over his spring break and he is easily giving up a week of snowboarding with his buddies to hang out with his pops.
It's really hard to grasp that he is just about finished his his freshmen year of
Well I will go back home tomorrow and the hubs is due back from the field on I am going to have great week. I never Forget to tell myself what a lucky woman I am to have two fantastic men that love me so much. No matter what life sends my way I have that. What else could a person ask for??
Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend!!

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

A Son's Reflection

Anyone that reads my blog knows I have a son that is Freshman in college. Today my son posted a note on his facebook to share a paper he wrote for his English class. My son wants to be a Marine and I have always thought he was pretty self assured and confident. To my amazement I find that wasn't necessarily true and maybe garnered a little insight as to why Marines (most military) shed their first names. Anyhow I asked him if I could share this with my readers and he said "sure" here goes.

Michael vs. Harting

My name comes from the Hebrew word Mikha'el, which is based off the Hebrew question “Who is like God?” This is also associated with the Archangel St. Michael. I tend to associate myself with the Archangel, not just because we share the same name but because he does what I one day plan to do; lead men (in his case angels) in combat. If you do not know, it is told that St. Michael is one of the field commanders in God’s army, which is somewhat similar to what I want to do (aside from the whole divinity part) which is be an infantry platoon commander in the United States Marines.

I never gave my first name much thought until around high school, which is where I started to re-assess and re-shape myself as a person. In high school I joined the NJROTC program, where it is custom to call others by their last name. As I progressed through this program, I became mentally and physically stronger; I had also become accustomed to being called Harting, my last name. It was after all this, that I realized that I was no longer “Michael” a name that I associated with a weak individual, but I was now a new person, I was “Harting”, a stronger more motivated person, and I allowed very few people to actually call me by my first name because of this. It’s still something that I deal with today, I tend to be more liberal with whom I allow to call me by my first name, but I still have little moments when I just do not like being called Michael.

It’s not that I hate my first name, it’s more that it takes me back to a time that I’d rather forget and not like to think of, back when I was weak and had no drive. Back when being average and sometimes mediocre was just fine. I think it’s funny, to be honest, how something so simple as a first name, can bring about such mellow emotion in me. Even now as I write this paper, I’m taken back to Havelock Middle School, back when my hair was long, my arms were skinny, and my stomach slightly protruded over my belt buckle. Back when I wanted to be a Marine, but thought I couldn't and that I was silly and stupid for even having such high aspirations, that perhaps the farthest I would get was the recruiting office, only then to quit after I had to face the reality that the Marines was an organization of challenge…..and the worst part is that I would be fine with that. How can a person, how could I, find any kind of acceptance…in quitting?! What does that say about that person’s character?!

I’ll tell you.

It says they are WEAK!

It says they are PITIFUL!

Worst of all it says they are unreliable….that they are untrustworthy.

And that’s unacceptable.

Now I am strong, my hair is short, my arms are larger, and I can proudly say that I have well defined abs. I still want to be a Marine, but now know I can be and that the farthest I can go is however far the limit is... and then go farther. Not only do I take on challenges now, I embrace them, knowing that when I overcome them, because I will overcome them, I will be a better person, not only in physical strength, but in character. I’ve now come to realize that quitting is no longer an option, that through quitting nothing will be gained and all will be useless and lost.

A friend of mine, someone who I care a great deal for, asked me if I preferred to be called “Michael” or “mike”. .. I couldn’t answer them. I wanted to tell them neither…that I was “Harting” not “Michael”, but they made me start to think, maybe it was time I gave “Michael” a second chance. If I were to allow myself to become “Michael” again, I wouldn’t go back to that kid I left behind in HMS, but maybe I could build “Michael” off of the foundations of who “Harting” is, and progress on from there.

I just came to realize how dramatic, and in some way funny, this whole paper is. I mean seriously, it sounds like I have split personalities or something. It also makes me wonder if there are other people out there who are in a similar situation, and if so, how many? I’m not sure, and in the end it probably doesn’t matter, because we are who we make ourselves to be.


Saturday, February 5, 2011

Hot Surprise From Viper

My hubs got service in field..
.and I got this.  Me doing a happy dance.

Friday, February 4, 2011

Milspouse Friday Fill In #29

1. Since most of the country has had nasty weather, what has your weather been like this week?

We are in 29 Palms and even though the perception is we are nice and toasty in the desert we are cold right now. I started to complain about it earlier this week but decided against if after realizing my hubs is out in the mountains sleeping on the ground for a month.

2. What is/are your best money saving tip(s)?
Internet sales!! You will find the best deals at all your favorite stores by shopping them on line. I learned this after living overseas for 9 years.

3. What was your favorite vehicle you’ve ever owned??
My mustang that I had to sell when my son got his driverslicencee.

4. What is a question you’d like to see asked in a future fill-in? (Your question & blog just may appear one week!)
What is your go too website for blog design?

5. Fill in the blank: You might be aMil Spousee if….
you understand why Rep. Giffords husband will be on that Space Shuttle.