Opinions are great, everyone has one and most love to give them out. Twitter is awesome for getting and giving opinions. What I learned on Twitter is that you quickly find out who you will continue to allow in your twitterverse and who you just have to click that convenient "block" button.
Now I admit most of my friends on Twitter are military folk in one capacity or other. A wife, a mother, a brat, and even some active duty folks. Most people think I hang around with a lot of "like minded" people and the even more annoying comment is we are all just "drones" that think alike, walk alike, talk alike...well we are all exactly the same. Nothing could be further from the truth.
My friends on Twitter all have very unique opinions and most are not afraid at all to "tweet" them. Sometimes we don't agree and that is fine. What makes me stay friends with these people is the simple matter of "respect". We can disagree and we can talk about why we disagree but we also "respect" the fact that we disagree about somethings and leave it at that.
What I try to do is remember perspective. Everyone has their own, your perspective is yours but mine is still different. We all view the world from our own experiences, and see it through our own unique lenses.
Sometimes we get so transfixed on our own point of view that we refuse to see another. And seeing someone elses point of view doesn't mean you change your own, it means you are respecting that person enough to try to see things through their "lenses".
Recently a topic some of us disagreed on really made me think about this. I will not talk about what we disagreed on because quite honestly I am over it and I think I am pretty sure we all are sticking to our guns on our different opinions. Sometimes you just have to let things go when there is no where left to go on a subject. I would never tell these friends they were "wrong" about their opinions, because they aren't. How can that be? Doesn't that mean if they aren't wrong than I must be? No..it means from their experiences and perspective what they think is exactly right and from my experience and perspective I am exactly right..and somewhere in the middle of all this .... that is our common ground..based on mutual respect for one another and our view point. At least that is how I see it.
But to get to the point of my rambling....I really like that me and my friends can so steadfastly disagree on something and find a way to respect one another and move on...these friends understand something fundamental about one another..that no matter how much something may divide us...we are bound by something stronger than our individual opinions.
Now I admit most of my friends on Twitter are military folk in one capacity or other. A wife, a mother, a brat, and even some active duty folks. Most people think I hang around with a lot of "like minded" people and the even more annoying comment is we are all just "drones" that think alike, walk alike, talk alike...well we are all exactly the same. Nothing could be further from the truth.
My friends on Twitter all have very unique opinions and most are not afraid at all to "tweet" them. Sometimes we don't agree and that is fine. What makes me stay friends with these people is the simple matter of "respect". We can disagree and we can talk about why we disagree but we also "respect" the fact that we disagree about somethings and leave it at that.
What I try to do is remember perspective. Everyone has their own, your perspective is yours but mine is still different. We all view the world from our own experiences, and see it through our own unique lenses.
Sometimes we get so transfixed on our own point of view that we refuse to see another. And seeing someone elses point of view doesn't mean you change your own, it means you are respecting that person enough to try to see things through their "lenses".
Recently a topic some of us disagreed on really made me think about this. I will not talk about what we disagreed on because quite honestly I am over it and I think I am pretty sure we all are sticking to our guns on our different opinions. Sometimes you just have to let things go when there is no where left to go on a subject. I would never tell these friends they were "wrong" about their opinions, because they aren't. How can that be? Doesn't that mean if they aren't wrong than I must be? No..it means from their experiences and perspective what they think is exactly right and from my experience and perspective I am exactly right..and somewhere in the middle of all this .... that is our common ground..based on mutual respect for one another and our view point. At least that is how I see it.
But to get to the point of my rambling....I really like that me and my friends can so steadfastly disagree on something and find a way to respect one another and move on...these friends understand something fundamental about one another..that no matter how much something may divide us...we are bound by something stronger than our individual opinions.
5 comments:
Paula
Thanks for the nice comment and yes you are so right about the FB stuff. That is why I love Twitter so much. I have FB but I am much more careful to censor myself on FB than Twitter.
This is one of the reasons I consider you a true friend even though we've never "actually" met. I always know that I can give you my opinion and as long as I do it respectfully, it doesn't matter if we see eye to eye because you respect me enough to just let me me different. I treasure you :)
Hellcat...you know I love your girlie..I value all your opinions because I know they come from a lot of thought. I am happy I met such a great friend this last year. Even if we never met in person.
Amen sister! You know I feel the same way! It's all about keeping it real!
For real ;)
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